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Alan R. Yoffee Memorial Web Site

Danny's Writings

THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL
AN EMPTY CHAIR
ALAN'S ROOM
CHOCOLATE ANGEL
FOREVER ON MY MIND
TEARING DOWN WALLS
AS I REMEMBER HIM
A YEAR TO REMEMBER
THE DAY THE MUSIC DIED
THE CITY THAT ALAN LOVED
THE WORST LOSS - MY GREATEST JOY
MY AIDS QUILT LETTER

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THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL

    I walked slowly into Philadelphia's Society Hill Playhouse. It wasn't my first time. I had been there many times before to see shows that my brother, Alan, had publicized.
This time the show would be about Alan.  

    Until shortly before he died, Alan worked full time as a publicist for an agency for the aged. He also juggled many freelance projects simultaneously, and donated much of his free time to a variety of community organizations. He would have been shocked at the eleven obituaries that were published. Those came from two Philadelphia daily papers, two weekly papers and the others in newsletters from various organizations where Alan had volunteered.  

    This October night, the 26th of 1992, we returned to Philly for his memorial service. My entire family was there‑except for my twin brother Alan. I was fine‑until I saw the bulletin board displaying his pictures. We had asked to videotape the service but his friends said it would make them uncomfortable.

    We needed to have something else to remind us of Alan. So, unknown to anyone, except my family, I slipped a tape recorder under my seat.

    Although Alan's friends had designed a postcard with a picture and a favorite quote, I felt he deserved a Playbill for all of the shows he had promoted. After being turned down by Playbill I designed my own program, including his biography.

  Following an introduction by the master of ceremonies, my brother Joel spoke of Alan's family life. He said how 1992 was a difficult year for all of us. "The pain of losing someone who touched you so closely is just indescribable," he continued. "No one in this world was closer to Alan, closer to each other than Alan and Danny were. Danny, no one has felt the intensity and loss and pain that you have. On the one hand I envy you, you were the luckiest of us all. I know I am a much better person because of Alan and the way he touched my life ... Danny, no one loved you more than Alan, no one was more loved by Alan than you, you are truly a very lucky man..."

    After his speech Joel recited something I had written, but was too heartbroken to read. It is called,Ē I remember" and contains some of the highlights of my life with Alan. This is only a small portion of it:  

I remember playing in the sandbox with our matchbox cars

I remember getting up early on Sundays to walk to the bakery for chocolate chip cookies.

I remember our walks back to Alan's apartment after the movies.

I remember our trip to Hershey by bus, at age 14.

I remember staying up late to help Alan get his mailings finished,

I remember when we would go to see Grandma Sloane, sometimes at 2AM.

I remember how Alan would give me support when I was worried about him.

  The memorial service continued, with a total of five friends talking about different aspects of his life. A wonderful singer, Kathy Sledge (of the group Sister Sledge), sang "I'll Be Seeing You" and "Goodbye Old Friend". When the microphone was open to anyone, we heard from many, each person recalling the fond moments they had with Alan. For months after, I would listen to the recording. It was often difficult to hear-- due to footsteps and my loud sobs but it helped me when I needed to cry.  

    My twin brother Alan, who died of AIDS on June 25, 1992, knew that his illness was terminal but managed to enjoy life to the fullest. I have chosen to remember him this way, enjoying life as best I can, and getting involved, as he did.  

 Daniel Yoffee's twin brother died in 1992. Helping with two TCF chapters, Daniel does newsletter layout for the Bergen-Passaic, NJ TCF chapter and is treasurer of the Rockland County, NY TCF chapter, and is on the steering committees for both chapters, He is also involved with an AIDS service provider in Rockland County assisting with fund raising, as well as being newsletter editor and creating a web page.  


AN EMPTY CHAIR

     The first wedding was two years after Alan, my twin-brother, passed away. My second oldest brother was getting married. I was waiting for the question, "When was I going to get married?" I was never asked so I couldnít use my prepared response, "When Alan could be my best man."

     I thought if I did get married I would have an empty chair next to me. If Alan couldnít be my best man, I didnít want anyone. My brotherís name would appear in the program (that he would have designed) as honorary best man.

     This year I turned thirty-six, it was my sixth birthday without Alan. At the restaurant we had made a mistake, the reservation had been made for one too many. I had ended up sitting next to an empty chair.

     Although I thought, I was doing better, no longer crying at family events. I now realize that I will not have an empty chair at my wedding, if I can ever bring myself to get married without Alan being there. The loss I feel will always be there but itís much worse seeing an empty chair.

 


ALAN"S ROOM

After my twin brother Alan passed away I was constantly looking for ways to keep his memory alive. Soon after the funeral I helped design the gravestone. When the first anniversary neared l started the scholarship his friends had long promised.

I often worried that besides having his name on a cemetery stone that Alan would be forgotten. I wanted his nieces and nephews to be able to know him. Alan, a Philadelphia resident, worked full time for the Philadelphia Corporation for the Aging doing public relations. He also was a freelance writer and volunteered for many arts and AIDS organizations.

With another brother married we had an empty room, which I wanted to be about Alan. The room includes articles that he wrote and articles about him, posters for projects he promoted and some he helped design. Above the double windows are Playbills for shows he promoted, each listing his name. One had a post-it note "Save this, this is my first"; I saved them all.

Included are interviews with Phyllis Diller, Lucie Arnaz and a Diana Ross biographer. An article, with his picture, at a Special Olympics event he coordinated, publicized and wrote about is also displayed. One project he developed was the "Senior Great American Smokeout". All of the Philadelphia nursing homes participated on the same day the American Cancer Society had their annual "smokeout". At the time of his death the project was nominated for an award.

The one item I am most proud of is the press release announcing his last job. He was asked to write his own press release. He once said he couldn't believe he got paid for a job he loved so much!

The room, 130 square feet, contains 55 framed items, which tell of Alan's career, interests, and love of life. His nieces and nephews will get to know their uncle, who-as his oldest brother said-did more in his thirty years then 95% of us do over an entire lifetime.


CHOCOLATE ANGEL

     I attended my first TCF (Compassionate Friends) national conference in Philadelphia, Alanís second hometown, in 1995, shortly after the third anniversary of his death. The first workshop, for siblings, was called Dreams and Visions. Here I had hoped to learn how to live my future without Alan. There was a typo in the program; it should have been called Dreams and Visitations. I was about to walk out. I had dreamt for months after Alanís death that he was still alive but was not ready for the unknown.

     A few years later, during tropical storm Floyd while walking to my car during heavy rain and winds, I suddenly got very worried, and upset thinking that the storm could damage Alanís stone at the cemetery. Then I stepped on a Hershey Bar wrapper and immediately stopped worrying. Alan and I had visited Hershey, PA very often, including a two-night stay, by ourselves, at age 14. I felt that this was his way of telling me not to worry.

     Recently I was worried about another problem. I took my nephew to Burger King; where they advertised Hershey Park. The next day I saw a girl wearing a Hershey Chocolate t-shirt. The following day someone from Hershey checked into my hotel. I finally decided what to do about my problem; I like to think, with assistance from Alan.

     I was once asked by a fellow TCF member to visit a medium. I am not sure if itís just by chance, but I like my way of hearing from Alan better.


FOREVER ON MY MIND

 When I attended my first meeting of the Bergen-Passaic Compassionate Friends, it was the day after my fifth birthday without my twin brother Alan.  Up to then I was working nights and unable to attend meetings.  Nine months later, May 1998 at a chapter meeting someone in the circle spoke of the tenth anniversary of his or her childís death.  They said they no longer think of their child everyday and it didnít bother them.  This was shocking to me, not to mention upsetting.  I couldnít imagine living a day without thoughts of him - both happy and sad.  I went home very upset.

Even after five years I always thought of him each and everyday.  To this day I will lick the bowl of frosting and think of the times we fought over the bowl.  After a snowstorm I write his initials in the snow.  When I hear something funny I think of him.  But I also think of all that he has missed.  He would have gotten to know his six, soon to be seven nieces and nephews, including my niece Allie who was named after Alan. We would have been able to enjoy many vacations together. 

This June will be the ninth anniversary of his death.  With the passing of time I have adjusted to not talking to him everyday (we both had 800#ís at work).  I do think of what he would say when I have a problem to work out.  I think the part of the old me is returning.  I have started to exercise again.  This is something I used to love to do before Alan got sick.  I have taken steps to advance my career, something I was planning at the time of his death.  I also think I took on some of his traits like becoming a better writer and not emptying the laundry basket after each wash.

There are now many more good days then bad.  But almost nine years after Alanís death, I am probably the only adult male to cry at a childrenís movie.  In ďRugrats in ParisĒ Tommyís father remarries sometime after his mothers death.  Tommy is thrilled that he will have two mommies, one on earth and one in heaven.  I am forced to remember that I canít have another Alan.  

I have given myself a job that I love: The job of keeping Alanís memory alive.  I do this by putting this newsletter together, collecting license plates, with his name, for each new state that I visit, donating to his scholarship fund and in many other ways.

When ďPhantom of the OperaĒ opened on Broadway I had no desire to see it.  That was until it opened in Philadelphia, after Alanís death.  Alan was a publicist in Philly and the show was playing at the only theatre where I had not seen something Alan had publicized.  One of the songs has a line ďThere will never be a day in which I wonít think of you.Ē  I think this will be true for a long time to come.

 


TEARING DOWN WALLS

     I attended my first Compassionate Friends conference in Philadelphia during the summer of 1997.   The fifth anniversary of my twin brother Alanís death had just passed a few weeks earlier.  Until that year I worked nights and was unable to attend TCF meetings.  Philadelphia was the place Alan called home after college. He lived only a few blocks from our grandmother who had passed away three years after him.

     I remember walking around in a town where I had once felt so much happiness only to realize that the people who made it enjoyable were gone and that left me feeling even sadder.  I was very anxious as I pulled into the hotel parking lot.  I had heard that people had found past conferences most helpful, but what if I didnít?

     I think one of the highlights of the conference was the AIDS workshop.  I was really looking forward to meeting people who had been through what I had been through.  At that time I didnít personally know anyone else who had lost someone to AIDS.  The workshop presenters had found out at the same time that their son was gay and that he had AIDS.  They were fortunate to have a year to spend with him and take care of him.  The workshop started with an ďice breakerĒ, an activity where we were given a list.  It was the job of the participants to find out from each other who had done similar things or had similar traits.  The point of the activity was to show how easily people could be segregated.

     Although the workshop wasnít as well attended as most, I found it to be most helpful.  It helped to hear what had helped others and what they had gone through.  I had people to call upon if I ever wanted to talk.   Upon leaving the workshop I got very nervous.  The leaders of my chapter were sitting in the back of the room.   I asked how long have you been sitting here, they replied, not very long. At the time I didnít realize they didnít know what the workshop they had walked into.  I said, ďI have something to tell you.  At our chapter meeting when it is my turn in the big circle I say that I had lost my twin brother Alan on June 25, 1992.  He died of cancer, but he didnít, he died of AIDS.Ē  I thought they would be angry and tell me not to come back.  They said what difference does it make how someone dies.  They couldnít understand why I would be afraid to say that Alan died of AIDS. 

     The following year I took the same workshop, in Nashville; there were only three in attendance.  The presenter knew of someone at the conference who lost a child to AIDS but was saying the cause of death was cancer.  After Alanís death both my parents told me they would tell people that he died of cancer.  I understood why they were doing this as I had told childhood friends, a month before he died, that Alan had cancer.  I was afraid of losing life long friends.  Alan never told those friends and relatives of his sexuality and I didnít feel that I could tell them about that as well as the AIDS.

     Alan and I, as Alan said, shared a ďwomb with a viewĒ until we were born in 1961.  While walking home from a movie he came out to me, he told me he was gay.  He was very surprised and relieved that I wasnít going to disown him.  Three years after his death I made a panel, in Alanís memory, for the AIDS quilt.  This was one of the first things I did to commemorate his life.  I was asked to write a letter to accompany the panel, telling how he would like to be remembered.  One of the things I wrote was ďThe making of a quilt for my brother will come as a surprise for many people when they find out about it:  The friends from Philadelphia who were surprised that AIDS wasnít mentioned in his obituary, and the relatives and family friends who never knew of his lifestyle, because Alan had chosen not to say anything.  We never talked about why, but I think that was what he had wanted.Ē   


AS I REMEMBER HIM

Whenever I answer an email from a newly bereaved sibling I say ďMy twin brother Alan passed away of AIDS on June 25th 1992.  There isn't a day in which I don't think of him."

     The greatest joy in my life was being Alan's twin brother.  The worst time since Alan's death was turning 40.  As the ninth anniversary approached last year I was very anxious.  I had thought I was doing much better and couldn't understand why I was unable to decide what I should do.  Afterward, I was still nervous, as I am each year between June and August, our birthday month, but last year was worse.

     As my birthday neared I realized that would be my first "milestone" birthday without Alan.  I decided I wanted to go to Philly, Alan's town.  To me it would be easier than being with all of the family, all except Alan.  I had figured out my family was planning a surprise party.  One morning before work, I became physically sick.  Even though I had survived without Alan for nine years I now realized that I couldn't continue without help.  Twice a week for the two weeks before my birthday I received counseling.  I had decided I would have a birthday party if I could make the guest list.  It turns out everyone I would have wanted was already invited.  Many didn't speak of Alan but they could see his picture button while speaking to me.  Thoughts of Alan were never far and as I walked the last friend to his car I realized that it was an enjoyable day but each milestone would be an adjustment.

     As I approach my 41st birthday, the tenth without Alan, I have had his initials put on my carís license plate. Each trip to a diner, I order Jell-O after a meal; each new state I visit I get a miniature license plate with his name. I gave his clothes to friends and charity, designed his headstone and developed a program for his memorial service. I started a scholarship, created an AIDS quilt, web page and a backyard garden. I devoted a room, ďAlanís roomĒ, with posters and articles by and about him. I donate items for AIDS & TCF auctions, write articles and volunteer for TCF, all in Alanís memory. As long as I live I will continue to find ways to honor his memory as I remember him.


A YEAR TO REMEMBER

     Growing up, my twin brother Alan and I had a scrapbook of the memorable events in our life Ė school certificates, community awards, autographed pictures and news of our favorite television shows.  Sometime after his death to AIDS in June of 1992, I would create a scrapbook about Alan.  This one contains notes of sympathy, pictures, as well as the notes that Alan had sent to me.  Because music was a very important part of Alanís life I included a list of Alanís favorite songs. I was very fortunate to have Alan in my life.  He was a writer who liked to express himself, and I was wise enough to save each postcard, letter and greeting card.

     This past year was the 10th anniversary of Alanís death. My mom and I would make our annual trip to the New Jersey shore.  Our family and friends marked the anniversary with a trip to Hershey, Pennsylvania.   Both of these places were favorites of Alanís. Another big event was a milestone birthday for my mom.  With the planning of a party I began to stress out, mainly because Alan wouldn't be there for a "major" family event - until I realized that this was a chance to remember Alan as well!

     My mom is always telling me to write a book with my articles about Alan.  I reply that I need a lot more articles.  For the party I made a birthday card booklet that included articles and pictures. I made a HAPPY BIRTHDAY candy wrapper (since Mom loves Hershey Bars).  On the back it says Happy Birthday from all of your children and grandchildren -- it included all of the names.    When we videotaped messages to Mom I was standing in front of an 11 X14 picture of Alan.   We had a dozen roses with a note that read ďRemembering Alan.Ē  They would have been the roses he would have gotten her.  For the nieces and nephews I made up goody bags.  I got all of Alan's favorites.  I had to special order Wizard of Oz coloring books; I got Crayola crayons, etch-a-sketch, a mustang matchbox car and a package of Reese's Peanut Butter Cups for each one.  I also got a CD burner and made Mom a CD of Alan's favorite songs. 

     Our closest childhood friend was given a copy of the CD for her support and help in setting up the party. She plays the CD each and every day.  One day, months later, on a trip to the post office, she had the CD playing with her car windows open.   She was at the mailbox and didn't realize how loud the music was. The next thing she knew this man came out of a restaurant a few doors down.  He started dancing on the way to the parking lot.  His wife told him to stop, that he was making a fool of himself.  He said he hadnít heard that song in years.  My friend apologized that the music was so loud and he said, "You donít know how happy this song makes me" and began dancing in the street and singing the song, ďIt Had To Be YouĒ. 

     After ten years the articles about Alan are less frequent and harder to do.   Its true, we reach a point where our grief isn't as intense as in the first few years, but we still grieve.  We still remember....  We still have our bad days.  It's ok to still tell stories and remember. 

As long as I can create new memories and make someone happy doing something in Alanís memory I will be here to share the story. I am getting on with life, doing the things that I enjoy but remembering Alan as well.  


THE DAY THE MUSIC DIED

On February 3, 1959, parents would lose children, siblings would lose brothers and grandchildren would die. This was the day a plane crash took the lives of singers J.P. Richardson (The Big Bopper), 28, Buddy Holly, 22 and Ritchie Valens, 17. Since all three were so prominent at the time, February 3, 1959, became known as "The Day The Music Died."

At the time of his death Ritchie Valens was a young man with superstar potential who, even though was still in his first year as a recording artist, had already made a name for himself in the music industry.

Growing up music would become a large part of my twin brother Alanís life. His interest in ďThe Wizard of OzĒ would lead to an admiration of Judy Garland and in time Liza Minelli. He had seen many of Lizaís concerts often sending her mail-grams of well wishes much to my motherís disproval. It was her fear that he would get arrested for harassment. We would travel often to other concerts as well including Billy Joel, Bruce Springsteen, Diana Ross, Whitney Houston, Kenny G and even Yanni.

Alan's interest in music and the arts began in high school with the artistic productions. After graduation from Temple University he would become entrenched in the Philadelphia cultural scene. Much of his free time was spent volunteering for arts, dance and theatre organizations. His name would be listed in the credits of many artistic productions. He, like Ritchie Valens, was just starting to realize his dreams. Then came June 25, 1992. Alan had died of an AIDS-related brain tumor that had started not more then two months earlier. This was-for me-the day the music died.

Don McLean immortalized the February 1959 tragedy with his 1972 hit ďAmerican PieĒ, a song that took Alan and I years to understand and memorize. I would mark my personal tragedy by constantly changing the radio station. So much that I thought I would break the buttons. A break-up song would remind me too much of my loss. While in a friendís car I had him turn off the radio rather then risk crying.

Then one day a few years later, upon leaving the cemetery, on the radio I heard Whitney Houstonís ďThe Greatest Love of AllĒ. Alan and I had recorded an awful rendition at a Hershey, PA amusement park recording studio. We agreed that no one else would hear the dreadful outcome. I switched stations twice only to hear the song two more times. It was my reflection that Alan was telling me to enjoy the music once again. To take pleasure in life and to do what we enjoyed doing together. I hear Alanís voice saying the words inscribed on Ritchie Valens grave "Come On, Let's Go."

Daniel Yoffee, TCF Board of Directors Sibling Representative. Reprinted from the summer edition 2003 of We Need Not Walk Alone Ė The national magazine of The Compassionate Friends.


THE CITY THAT ALAN LOVED

I find it very important to spend each anniversary going somewhere or doing something that my twin brother Alan enjoyed. This year for the 11th anniversary my Mom and I, after visiting Seaside Heights, NJ, went to Philadelphia - Alanís second hometown.

At the shore I remembered Alan by buying raffles tickets for a Mustang convertible, eating a steak sandwich and getting a temporary tattoo with his initials. I was told the tattoo would last ten days - it lasted one. In Philadelphia we decided to eat in the places where we had shared meals and return to see the places where Alan lived.

Our hotel faced Alanís very last apartment building. I remembered the times we had spent looking in the direction I now stood in - eleven years later. I frequently gazed at his bedroom window, thinking of all that Alan - the writer, publicist, AIDS activist, volunteer and advocate for the elderly has missed, and what might have been.

A Bette Midler song talks about places remembered, ďsome have changed, some forever not for better.Ē Alan, who enjoyed many of his meals at various restaurants, would be surprised to see that some had closed ten years after his death due to the poor economy. The Savoy, Houlihans and IHOP (all places where we spent numerous times talking about college, careers, family and life) are also now just memories.

Alan had moved 11 times in 12 years for a variety of reasons. I realized there wouldnít be any new memories and I worried about forgetting the old ones - so I took pictures to remember each apartment and some of the memories they hold. As I looked through the camera I remembered many special moments Ėhis hosting a neighborhood coffee-klatch for a mayoral candidate; moving from a duplex apartment to a studio; staying up late to help with volunteer projects; dropping a box containing hundreds of pennies while walking across the street which Alan gave to a homeless person and the Wizard of Oz mural he had painted on his last living room wall.

As the years go by I think of Alan each and every day and feel life has become easier - except for some moments at family gatherings. As a recently bereaved father told me "the wound can heal but the scar is always there." With each move since 1988 an ad for the movie Beaches was affixed to Alanís refrigerator. It says, ďOnce in a lifetime you make a friendship that lasts forever.Ē My greatest joy is being Alanís twin-brother Ėkeeping our friendship and his memory alive.


THE WORST LOSS - MY GREATEST JOY

The worst loss that I will have ever suffered took place on June 25, 1992. I lost my twin brother Alan to AIDS that June morning at 5:10 am. I had spent the previous four days at his bedside, 24 hours a day. Even though he had been HIV+ for almost six years, I thought he would be around when he was 80. Until two months before his death he was still working full time. I was in complete denial until a few weeks before his death. He died of an AIDS related brain tumor.

Later that June morning I went back to his apartment, the one with the Wizard of Oz mural painted on his living room wall. I wouldnít let anyone else in until I took pictures of everything just the way that Alan had left it. Those items included many family pictures, Hershey memorabilia, Alanís large music collection and posters for events he publicized. Photography was my hobby and this was my most difficult assignment. It wasnít until I was finished that I would have my brothers and Alanís friends over to give them each something of Alanís.

For some time after Alanís death, hearing the music that we enjoyed would bring great pain. Any love song reminded me of the loss of my brother and greatest friend. It took some time to enjoy the music again. I attended a recent Simon & Garfunkel concert mainly to hear the song Sound of Silence, a song Alan and I perform as youngsters with our graduating class. The words ďHello darkness my old friendĒ remind me of all that he is missing.

An interest of mine (and Alanís) since the age of nine was Hershey, PA and the history of the man who created it all, Milton Hershey. An article on Alan after Alanís death said that ďHe was like the man behind the curtain in his favorite movie - behind the scenes, working miracles that have nothing to do with magic and everything to do with good will.Ē It was written about Hershey ďHe had persevered, refusing to quit. In spite of his struggles, he stayed true to his passionÖĒ This was also very true of Alan, who knew that he was going to die.

I think an inscription on the base of the Statue of Milton Hershey that reads "His deeds are his monument, his life is our inspiration" describe Alan as well. It has been said ďIf you never loved, you never cried.Ē I realize that I would gladly endure the hurt to have had Alan in my life. It is my hope that my obituary will read that being Alan's twin brother was my greatest joy.


MY AIDS QUILT LETTER

When I made an eight quote for my twin brother, I was asked to write a letter to accompany yet, telling how he would like to be remembered.

Alan R. Yoffee August 25, 1960 -June 25, 1992

This is one of the most difficult tasks and that I have ever encountered. To be asked to share my favorite memories of Alan, my twin brother, is the enjoyable part. How he would like to be remembered is hard. We never discussed character but spoke about family, friends, projects, jobs and how we would spend our next visit together.

To say that Alan worked as a publicist for an agency for the aged would be correct but also incomplete and describing his talent and energy. In addition to a full-time job he often had many freelance projects going simultaneously, as well as donating much of his free time to a variety of community organizations.

The making of a quilt for my brother will come as a surprise for many people when they find out about it: friends from Philadelphia who were surprised that AIDS was not mentioned in his obituary, and the relatives and family friends who never knew of his lifestyle, because Alan had chosen not to say anything. We never talked about why but I think that was what he had wanted it.

Having known that he had eleven obituaries would be a shock to Alan. To be compared to the wizard in the Wizard of Oz, a favorite movie, would be overwhelming. Being a journalist he would laugh at how his age was different and some papers, and be upset that a few papers forgot to list my name. I think that Alan would be very proud to have a quilt in his memory.

The quote that I made I wanted to be simple with pictures which represent very important people and times in his life. They include: a baby picture of us, who he once said shared a womb with a view; his good pal and grandmother, Betty, who often shared each other‘s company and caring; the vacation spot he enjoyed the most, Hershey, no matter how often we visited; the family gatherings like Joey‘s graduation were always very special to him; being seated on Santa‘s lap is just a sample of his out rages Christmas card; I’m here I’ll paint it on his wall featuring a scene from his favorite movies; a picture with Dr. Jay. And his friend Arnold, how many men as a nursing home volunteer, represents his enjoyment of his profession and volunteer work. Also, included in the “our“ from Alan‘s memorial service with his picture on a quotation which Apple Pay describes his passion for success. I quote would be incomplete without a picture of Alan and Mom, the one who gave him a great deal of support during his illness.

I hope that my writing so far tells of how Allan would like to be remembered. I prefer to remember the highlights of our life together; our visits to the Philadelphia zoo with our grandmother and aunt; the early Sunday morning walks to the bakery for chocolate chip cookies as teenagers; our first vacation by ourselves, at 14, to Hershey and Lancaster where we learned of the Amish people, as well as our enjoyable walks after the movies back to Alan’s apartment. I am not sure how he would like to be remembered but the greatest joy of my life was being Alan‘s twin brother.

Daniel P Yoffee

June 9, 1995

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